Being told you have a condition that you’re not actually suffering from is a major setback. The time that could’ve been spent on trying to get you feeling better has been wasted. You may be feeling worse physically, as well as disappointed and even betrayed.
But that doesn’t mean your responsibilities and duties as a mom stop. When you’re not feeling great, you still have to take care of the little ones. So how can you still be a good mom after a misdiagnosis?
Rely on your support network
Do you have people in your life you can lean on? Then start leaning. Ask your family and friends to pitch in and help when you can’t. If you have medical appointments or just aren’t feeling up to getting your to do list done, try to pull in some assistance from the folks around you.
You may even want to take some time for yourself and head along to a support group for people who’ve suffered the same health issues as you. It can help to speak candidly with people who’ve also gone through what you have. They’ll understand how you’re feeling and can share their opinions and advice.
Use games to your advantage
We all know how much kids love games. That makes them a great option when you’re not feeling well. Suggest playing doctor-patient or hospital and let them take the role of care-giver. It gives you a chance to rest, while your kids take care of you.
Depending on their ages, you could get them to bring you hydrating fluids or read you stories, which also lets you spend some quality time together. You could also send them on a treasure hunt – get them to find and bring you everyday things from the house like the TV remote, the bathroom hand towel or the striped couch cushion. Just make sure you get them to put everything back where they found it.
Encourage quiet time
When you want your kids to be quiet, what better activity than reading? Challenge them to read a whole book – or a set number of chapters – while you get some rest. When they’re done and you’ve had enough time to snooze, get them to tell you about what they just read and discuss it. This shows them you’re interested and can encourage more interest in reading.
You may even want to relax the rules on screen time when you’re not feeling too hot. Tell them that if they do their chores and behave, they can watch an extra TV show. You can switch this up and let them have an extra half hour on the tablet.
So although you may not be feeling your usual self, there are ways of getting around an illness. You can still be mom to the little ones who don’t know any different. Keeping them entertained doesn’t have to involve a huge level of effort.